An Arizona couple suffered severe post-coital buzz after their 6-year-old daughter woke up crying.
In an already viral TikTok video, Matt Underwood tells his wife Jaycee Underwood that their daughter is “crying because she heard you scream and she wants to make sure you’re okay.”
Matt then tells Jacey, who is in bed filming, that he needs to go talk to her. (Matt and Jacey, both 31, asked TODAY.com not to use their children’s names.)
Jayci agrees and with her camera still rolling, she walks into the first grader’s bedroom. The room is dark and the child’s face is not shown.
“I heard you scream and I wanted to know what was wrong,” says a thin voice. “But no one answered me.”
“Our door was closed. I’m so sorry,” Jaycee replies.
Through tears, the little girl explains that she thought her mother was “hurt or something”.
“Oh no, I’m not hurt,” Jacey assures her. “I’m sorry I scared you.”
And then: a moment of comic relief.
“I also heard you order pizza,” adds the 6-year-old.
Jayci’s TikTok, which was posted on March 1, has already been viewed more than 38 million times. The influencer’s children are not featured prominently on her TikTok.
“Do I think children should be used as content? Absolutely not. And do I think you should pick up your phone and record your child in a moment of distress? Absolutely not,” Jayci tells TODAY.com. “But the reason I decided to post this was because I knew it would be so relatable and funny for adults.”
The clip was shot five months ago, but Jaycee kept it in her drafts and forgot about it until last week.
“We had a one night stand at home. The kids go to bed early,” Jayci tells TODAY.com. “We played a few games, watched a movie, and then got intimate.”
After the deed was done, Jayci says she and Matt were “laughing” and joking around. The TV was also on, and Jayci says her daughter may have heard it since she’s “not loud” in bed. But she says it’s also possible she heard them “whirling” in the bedroom.
“I felt terrible. She is the most sensitive, sweet angel child. If mommy or daddy starts crying, she’ll cry too,” says Jaycee. “I hate that she thought I was in physical pain.”
Jayci says she and Matt are “careful” and always lock their door when they have sex.
“We think she was calling us and we didn’t hear her and that’s why it escalated the way it did,” Jaycee says.
Thousands of people commented in solidarity on Jayci’s post.
“My son once walked into the room as quiet as a ninja, went to the other side of the bed and said, ‘Dad, get away from Mom,'” one mother wrote.
Added another: “Just went through this with my 8 year old son. the same thing. he was so scared. he even made the sound so I knew what he meant 😳 😂.”
But not all comments are good. As one person wrote on Twitter, “am I the only one who doesn’t find this funny…? if you have a child in the house why would you SCREAM during intercourse with your partner? the kids don’t know what you’re doing, and even if they did, it’s incredibly disrespectful and traumatizing to them?”
Parenting and youth development expert Dr. Deborah Gilboa says people in the United States are unhappy when it comes to intimacy.
“We have a really strong puritanical base in our country that thinks sex is horrible,” Gilboa told TODAY.com. “In many cultures around the world, parents and children share a room. It doesn’t lead to higher rates of incest, sexual exploitation, or any of the things we’d rightly worry about.
Gilboa says Jaycee and Matt did the right thing: they went and comforted their daughter. They also later apologized for “playing too loud”.
“We were playing and we were too loud is the perfect thing to say to a little kid,” says Gilboa. But if your child understands the birds and the bees, you need to be honest with them.
“Do not lie. There’s nothing shameful about having sex. Trauma is thinking something wrong is happening,” she says. “You want to give your kids the idea that sex isn’t wrong – it’s just personal”
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